What do relationships

have to do with it?

Children's

views on love

Here are some children’s views of
happy, healthy and loving relationships.

“Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mummy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss.”

DANNY, AGE 7

“Love is when Mummy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t think it’s gross.” 

KAREN, AGE 7

“Love is like a little old woman & man who are still friends even after they  know each other so well.” 

NOELLE, AGE 7

“Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.” 

CHRIS, AGE 7

“Love is what makes you smile even when you’re tired.”

SALLY, AGE 7

“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different.  You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.” 

BILLY, AGE 4

Who is the

'right one' for me?

We all have specific things that we look for in someone we hope will be our Great Match (GM). After the first steps of flirting and being nice to each other you need to make informed choices to see if you are both truly compatible. The most important decision is feeling safe - with both of you being able to say what you think and ask for what you want without fear or shame.

MY GM (GREAT MATCH)

Generous

Attractive

Enthusiastic

Safe to be with

Sense of humour

Respectful

Trustworthy

Attentive

Complimentary

Shared interests

Shared values

Personality

Type of touch

Eye colour

Hair colour

YES  /  NO

YES  /  NO

YES  /  NO

YES  /  NO

YES  /  NO

YES  /  NO

YES  /  NO

YES  /  NO

YES  /  NO

YES  /  NO

YES  /  NO

FULL ON  /  REGULAR  /  QUIET

GENTLE  /  ROUGH

BROWN  /  BLUE  /  GREEN

DARK  /  RED  /  FAIR

NOW, YOU HAVE IDENTIFIED WHAT'S IMPORTANT TO YOU

The great 

night out story

Her Story:

It was such a great night, everyone was there and I thought my outfit was soooo right! He didn’t even comment on how I looked tonight and normally he appreciates my efforts… does he think my outfit was over the top? There were a lot of his mates from the footy club there… why did he have to hang in the corner by himself? Is he bored with me? Was he trying to show me that he wants to break up? 

 

When we got to my place I was too scared to invite him in but he just came in as if nothing had happened. My parents were out so we had the TV room to ourselves. He turned on the footy replay I was too scared to ask him what was wrong so I just pretended I was asleep. He turned off the TV when the footy finished and started to nuzzle up to my neck. We kissed a little and he seemed to enjoy it. I pretended I was into it too but I’m not sure which one of us I was trying to kid. I cried myself back to sleep after he left.

His Story:

I wasn’t in the mood for the party… thank god she can hold her own and she’s not one of those needy, clingy girls. If I had to go to the party I was grateful she made it easier for me to be there. All night I was worried that exams were coming up, I hadn’t studied and my parents were going to ground me for life if I failed. All I wanted to do was get back to her place and watch the footy to escape. I really feel good about our relationship… she really gives me space to do my own thing. After the footy finished we made out a little… I really dig it how she loves it too!

What's a healthy

relationship?

Breaking up is​

hard to do, choose to do it right!

Work through the options to make informed choices.

1

DOES THE WHOLE WORLD NEED  TO KNOW?

 

If you post your break up what does that say about you? If your ex posted about your break up online, would you be cool with that?

HOW MUCH CAN YOU EXPLAIN IN A TEXT?

Would a text cause more pain, or less pain as a breakup message? Could a text be confusing? Could a text cause your ex to explode?

HOW GOOD ARE YOU AT COMMUNICATING WHAT YOU REALLY MEAN WITH WRITTEN WORDS?

Do you want your soon-to-be ex to have a record of what you wrote? How confident are you that your soon-to-be ex will receive this email?

YOUR INTENTIONS MAY BE GOOD, BUT COULD YOU BE MISUNDERSTOOD

 

What if your soon-to-be ex hangs up before you finish? where does that leave you?

YOU MAKE THE CHOICE TO BE A PERSON WITH CLASS

Your soon-to-be ex can hear what you're saying and see what you're feeling and feel that at least you've taken the time to treat them with respect. S/he may not be happy but at least they get a chance to talk it through and get the full message. Is this how you would like to be treated when you become a soon-to-be ex?